The 4S is designed for and performs well in wet conditions. No idea why your vendor would say "not meant for rain". I have not tried them on the R8 but it's generally regarded as one of the best options for the R8.
I currently have the Cup2 fitted since 2018 and was happy with them for general road use, though, like you, I don't do a lot of wet driving. I have used them on a track day in Anglesey North Wales and when it started raining mid afternoon I had the track pretty much to myself for the rest of the session. They were fine on a wet track and light rain and I was quite surprised how much corner speed I could carry. Exits required a bit more throttle modulation but that can only be expected. For normal street use I find them a good tyre, but see paragraph below on life.
Standing water and hydroplaning is a different risk and I can't comment on performance in those situations. I know the local roads well enough to know where the water lies and back off appropriately. I can only speculate that hydroplaning risk with Cup2 would be higher as there aren't many water courses in that sparse tread pattern.
One thing I'd say about the Cup2 is the life is probably restricted to about 3-4 years which is a bit less than regular tyres. I'm a low mileage user, currently have about 7,000 miles on them and plenty life left (4mm I think). However, after 3+ years I noticed the traction control light coming on in dry situations and locations where it didn't previously (like full gas exiting a roundabout onto a motorway). So it looks like the compound loses traction with age at a greater rate than regular summer tyres and I'm thinking about changing them out in the spring - that's if I don't abandon ship and buy a 911 Turbo. 🙊- don't tell anyone. If you are doing 4000+ miles a year, then that shouldn't be a problem as you'll be changing on tread wear rather than age.
Hydroplaning risk aside, I think Cup2 would be a good choice for California.
Have you considered the Continental Sportcontact7?
Edit : on your last question. I typically warm them up to 25+C (77F) before anything too brutal. This usually coincides with engine warm up anyway, so no special treatment required.